You’re Too Sensitive.

Ever had someone tell you that before? And this has been bothering me for the longest time.

Am I sensitive or are you unaware of your boundaries?

It’s funny to you but it’s not to me. And it’s worse because somehow the people closest to you; your family, partner and close friends seem to act as if they are allowed to say whatever they want simply because we are related. Wtf?

Shouldn’t the people closest to you be more sensitive to your feelings and watch what they say instead?

Let’s just give them the benefit of doubt and let them say what they want to us. But, if they truly cared about us, wouldn’t they take a step further to ensure that we are truly alright with what they just said instead of making assumptions and taking in comfort that no hard feelings will be there just cause we are ‘close’ or worse, we are family.

“You got fat”

That’s what a close family member came to me and said in my face when I was younger. Why is that okay? At that point in time, I’d say I couldn’t care less but honestly, it hurts. *laughs it off* “We’re family, right?”

Maybe they could have phrased it better, ask me to get some exercise or put it across nicely and it would still have worked better than this toxic nonsense. Because of this, I did become as insensitive as they were to me. Until I realize that it hits different when I’m on the receiving end of people I actually care about.

That’s when you ask yourself, “Do you let them exploit your confidence and cross your boundaries just because or do you stand up for yourself?”

The latter it is.

Oh, and don’t give me all that BS that it was a joke or what not because when someone does share something that hits very close to home, it’s not a tool to be used as a fucking joke. It’s just a ticking timebomb, really.

So let’s get this straight, I could be your child/partner/close friend but that does not give you the right to make insensitive statements that impact my self-esteem without fully making sure I’m alright with it.

And no, I’m not sensitive. You just don’t know your boundaries. That’s all.

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