I Do Not.

Lately, I attended a close friend’s wedding, and I don’t think I liked it at all.

Maybe just the food; it was a buffet so I could eat all I want. In fact, it was a rather small wedding for close family and friends, but it was still quite an interesting spectacle. I was literally questioning my buddies, “What does the couple say to the people when they go around entertaining them?”. Response came back like, “Was the food good? Did you enjoy your food? Did you have a hard time finding your way here?” and all the other niceties.

That’s when I thought to myself, “Wow, that’s tiring”.

I reckon if it was my wedding, the bride should just sit the fck down and the guests can take turns to take photos with her and not vice versa. Like, it’s my wedding, I did my job to invite you, I shouldn’t have to tire myself out with even more to fake niceties to people I’m not even close to right? Perhaps this is my introvert self speaking I suppose.

On a random note, the fact that I have to pay to be there though. Why?

I suppose the idea that I got invited and I have to pay to be there is kind of annoying to me. To go and google how much I have to give for the red packet and what not…wtf? I honestly didn’t sign up for this. But hey, it’s a close friend so I guess I can make an exception. Someone said that perhaps I would have enjoyed the wedding more if I had a plus one. I think not.

From a financial viewpoint, weddings cost a bomb and tbh I very much rather spend it all on myself or even on the honeymoon, renovation etc. Don’t get me started on people who monetize their weddings, that’s the worst. To intentionally invite relatives who are well-off so that you can make a “profit” off the wedding, absolutely disgusting. It’s supposed to be a celebration of love, not a business. Apparently, some beg to differ.

And at the end of the day, when it boils down to the intention of the wedding; it’s really just for formality purposes which is pretty absurd imo.

Personally, a marriage is between two people, and I think it should just be that unless you genuinely want to celebrate this milestone with people who truly care about you OR you truly care about, then that’s alright. Unpopular opinion, I feel if you see them once a year, I honestly don’t think it’s necessary to invite them to your wedding.

What amused me the most was how some people treat marriage like a tick off their life’s checklist.

Like once this is checked off, they can then proceed to focus on the other aspects of life. Why though? I don’t think there’s a right way but I’m not sure if this is the ideal way to go about doing it. Either way, I do wish them all the best.

In the meantime, I’ll take my time and see what works best for me. It’s a learning process but I think I’m slowly getting the hang of it somehow.

Until then, stay safe.
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