My Superpower.

Do you realize people always have some sort of opinion for…everything?

Even when it’s absolutely unsolicited. Uncalled for. They’d die if they don’t share their opinions. How amusing. It’s almost as though they have a manual on how to live life and they are compelled to convince you that that is how you should live yours too. Huh.

Granted, the intention matters.

If they are truly sharing from a good place, it’s alright. But I guess it has to do with how I take criticism too. Imagine this, you’re a people pleaser and you don’t have boundaries so you just keep letting people push you around to a point that even you end up sabotaging yourself. Even you start to convince yourself that your mindset is the problem and not theirs? Sounds familiar? Yeah, fuck that.

Did you know I have a super power? Yes I do. The ability to filter unconstructive comments from people who wants to teach me how to live my life. Tbh I’m very amazed at myself actually.

Ironically, I think I have my upbringing to thank, for this superpower.

When you’re raised with so much toxic trash around you, you sort of have to figure out how to survive. Let’s see, we have the, “How to treat your elders”, “How to treat your parents”, “How to behave”, oh and now “How to lead your life”. Ignoring opinions of people who don’t matter aside, what about opinions of people who do matter? Funnily enough, I don’t actually categorize them at all. It’s a “apply to all” function (if you do enough PowerPoint slides you’d get it). It doesn’t matter if your a close friend or family tbh.

The general rule of thumb is, if it’s unconstructive and doesn’t value-add to anything, chuck it.

You may or may not apply this to relationships. HAHAHA. Reason being, a colleague was sharing how travelling for such a short period of time is not enough and also travelling alone is frowned upon on in his dictionary. Well, let’s give the benefit of doubt that he’s a boomer and their mindsets are…ancient at best. So, we acknowledge their opinion and just move on. I’d reason with him that I’d love to travel for longer periods of time but clearly this corporate life thing doesn’t allow me to do that given the limited number of leaves I have but did I say that? No. *hahaha it is* Funnily enough, I’ve also realized…

People judge you based on their lack of effort to get to know you as a person.

Which is…annoying. My rationale is that if someone feels comfortable enough to share with you a crumb of personal information, they probably felt that they could trust you. But if you start questioning their intentions for sharing such info, then perhaps you don’t know them well enough. I strongly believe you should then try to get to know them better instead of… passing judgements on their intentions instead.

Then again, it’s not my job to tell you who I am as a person so. I guess you don’t necessarily need to care about these judgements if they are people who don’t matter.

At the end of the day, people just need something to gossip about so, it is what it is. No hard feelings. Just, not nice is all.

I think a lot of people care too much about how people view them.

In fact, I might have also been one of them. Until now. I reckon it’s mainly because of the people around me. My parents. My previous partners. My friends even. Maybe I’ve just been pretending to like people just to fit in I guess which is absolutely uneccessary and you should never do that. Then again, it’s the most convenient group of people you tend to hang out with so it’s inevitable that it influences the way you behave in one way or another.

Ngl I think I feel so much more myself now. Is the the part where a new chapter of me being unhinged starts? Someone told me I don’t seem like I’m adulting because I travel too much. WOW. It never fails to amuse how people perceive me though, it’s always a surprise. It’s like, “Oh, do tell me more, I’d love to get to know her too” HAHAHA

Live your life at your own terms.

We’re supposed to learn from mistakes which WE MAKE. Just like how my kiddos told me they don’t run to the washroom because they ACTUALLY fell down when they ran one time (so cute I know).

Cheers to being the most unapologetic, realest and honest version of you.

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